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It's~A~Resonating~World
The Living~Dying Duet
in a Person's Life
When Living and Dying Dance a Duet
..... what music will you play? ©
with heartfelt thanks to Lori Rose Tupper
The Living~Dying Duet in our life is living with the acceptance and release that comes from awareness that dying is also happening. Living~Dying Duet is the beautiful result of us feeling our living and feeling our dying at the same time. Mostly we feel them, and sometimes we can measure them:
Living and Dying dance their duet. We choose to play our music to affect their dance and how we feel about it, or we choose to be silent as Living and Dying dance as they will.
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Living~Dying Duet makes living and dying richer by giving immediacy to living and meaning to dying
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Living~Dying Duet helps a person to be more aware of their true self versus the "noise" of their surroundings, by helping them identify and let go of things that are around them and may be very present for them ("noise") but are not part of their authentic self
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Living~Dying Duet allows a person to have fuller expression by making the person more aware of their feelings and emotions, and more willing and able to express them. Some examples could be "I'm less scared of dying than I am of dementia", "I rejoice for the many beautiful years I've lived", "I enjoy bringing small positive energies to lots of different situations", etc.
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Living~Dying Duet is our constantly changing balance between dying and living
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Playing music for the Living~Dying Duet is how we decide to live the rest of our lives, and what mark we decide we will leave on the world when we're gone. Will you play your music for the Duet and affect the dance as you choose to, or let your Living and Dying dance however they choose to?
Living~Dying Duet doesn't come just from learning something new but from un-learning somethings old -- from identifying and letting go of "noise" from our past and from our surroundings, which allows our Living~Dying Duet to help us feel and live who we really are.
Living~Dying Duet is part of The Alzheimer's Conversation
Living and Dying are dancing a Duet in each of us beginning with our first feeling of loss, as a young child. We become aware of Living and Dying as the separate and sequential conditions of Life and Death. Relating to Living and Dying as flowing processes that occur together continually in each of us allows us to feel that what we now relate to as "Death" is part of a process that starts before "Death" and continues after "Death" and can include steps such as:
> awareness of Living and Dying, and of the Living~Dying Duet
> preparation of Tombstone and Lifestone
> Grieving for Myself
> Transition
> Grief-Growth
> Epitaphing
Here is a conversation about the Living~Dying Duet:
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