Epitaphing is remembering a person by doing something that was important to the person.  Epitaphing is a grieving/remembering activity of love and life.
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The person being remembered may have expressed what they want remembered about themself, or the person doing the Epitaphing may choose what about the person to remember.​​​​​
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There are not specific rules for Epitaphing.  What to do for Epitaphing a person, how often/when to do it, who should be involved, and everything else is determined by the person doing the Epitaphing.  The Epitaphing for a person may change over time, as the person doing the Epitaphing feels.
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Epitaphing affects both the person doing the Epitaphing and the person being remembered.  The person doing the Epitaphing may find it a meaningful way to grieve and remember.  For the person being remembered, Epitaphing keeps alive a valued activity by which the person expressed themself.
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Two examples of Epitaphing connected with the author are:
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1.  Epitaphing as part of my remembering my brother.
My brother died and I grieve for him and remember him.  He enjoyed and spent much of his energies on plants -- growing plants, landscaping, house plants, arranging and caring for plants, etc.  After the formal mourning period it was important for me to develop a way of Epitaphing my brother, which I chose to do by keeping the plants part of him alive.  During my daily walks I see plants, and the Epitaphing I do for my brother is going close to plants that are particularly striking and stroking them for a few moments.  For me this act is a way of showing my love for my brother and remembering him, and I have come to enjoy this act of itself.  In these actions I am Epitaphing my brother, actions that continue in a small sense his connection to plants and are part of my remembering him.
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2.  A way I express what I feel, that Epitaphing could be part of a remembering process for me.
I wrote my Tombstone, which then became my Lifestone, during the "Creating My Tombstone" phase of the process I'm going through to deal with my dementia.  My Tombstone, which took me several weeks to develop, is "To feel situations I'm in, and to bring my energies to make the situations richer for the people they touch", and then this also became my Lifestone.  I do this in all sorts of small ways each day, coming authentically from my guts by "I feel what I feel and I say what I feel".  Such things as watching bricklayers work and then telling them they're doing artwork, seeing a father and young daughter sitting on a sidewalk next to a Little Free Library reading a book and telling them what a beautiful picture they are, and many situations in the flow of life are examples of this.  For someone to do this occasionally in situations they are in and think of me would be a way of Epitaphing me and keeping that part of me alive.
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For the author, Epitaphing is part of his Flow of Continuation: