​​​​​​​The Bar-Bat Matzevah person expresses aspects of the Bar-Bat Matzevah that are special to the person.  Following is a list of possible topics that the person could speak about during the Event.  As an example the topics selected to present in a particular Event are marked in blue in this list and described below.  Press the tilde ~ at the beginning of each line for more information about that line:

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 ~ A Stone -- connection with and presence of nature is part of being an Elder

 ~ Raised It Up As a Monument -- a person putting attention and energy in to make something happen

 ~ Monument/Beacon -- a person designing their life and setting guidance to live it, Tombstone becomes Lifestone 

 ~ The Living~Dying Duet -- dealing with the larger presence of dying in our lives​​​​​​​​​​​​ as we become an Elder

 ~ Changes in Balance -- changes in thinking, feeling, amount of activity, connections, and other things for an Elder

 ~ Connection with Other People -- despite their past disputes both Jacob and Laban wanted to connect

​ ~ Epitaphing -- what is the effect on other people of raising the monument / passing interests and values to others

 ~ Action brings Intention -- the act of the stones/pile/monument came before and led to the peace they symbolized

 ~ Context/Surroundings -- use of words: "And Laban called it Jegar-sahadutha; but Jacob called it Galeed"​

 ~ Religion -- the source phrase of Bar Matzevah is taken from the Bible

 ~ Recognizing "noise" -- when is it worth taking something and putting effort into it, and when not?

 ~ more-- other thoughts / actions / feelings / initiatives the Bar-Bat Matzevah person takes from the verse

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